Children Learn from Everything You Say and Do

Children imitate everything that you say and do.

And frustratingly don’t listen to what you tell them to do.
But they are always learning from you.

Do you want your child to eat more fruit and vegetables and drink more green juices? Start to eat and drink these things (and have less ‘bad’ temptations available).

Do you want your child to have a positive body image? Show them how you talk to yourself positively, appreciate your body and express it.

If you want your child to look after themselves then they need to see you looking after yourself.
Let them see you nourishing yourself in ways that make you feel happy.
Take some time for yourself and let them see you doing it, let them know how important it is.

How do you talk to yourself? How do you talk to your partner? How do you speak to people that you don’t know? They are always listening and watching.

How do you talk to them? That voice in your head that is always judging and criticizing yourself is likely some of the things that your parents said to you, because that’s how their caregivers spoke to them.

Be kind and look after you, and your children will imitate that 🌟

To all the parents out there, you are doing an amazing job, it’s not always easy and the kids may not follow your instructions but you are great.

Things I Didn’t Expect to Heal When I Changed My Lifestyle

Back in 2007 when I was working in the corporate industry, my health was at its lowest and I had many issues that I needed to heal. Thankfully with some research I found the tools to do it naturally and my journey to health started. 
What I didn’t expect was a much calmer mind. Just eating a healthier diet started to heal my gut which then eased my anxiety. I used to sleep walk because my mind was so stressed and active and I no longer do that. I am nowhere near as angry as I used to be, except for the good ol hormonal cycle that gets me sometimes, but thankfully that got a lot easier too.  

Since then I have learned about the ‘Gut-Brain axis’ and the vagus nerve. (This is a helpful article explaining the link between the gut and the brain: https://www.dietvsdisease.org/gut-brain-axis/)

What I learned is that everything is linked, mind, body and soul and if you’re only giving attention to one part then the other parts are going to be neglected and life is going to be out of balance. 

Similarly, there are so many different aspects of our life that need attention such as our relationships, career and business and family. If one is out of balance it can turn our whole world upside down. 

Each part of your life needs attention

Are you feeding your brain? You could be working really hard or studying and getting a lot of information and neglecting your body. 

Do you feed your soul? Do you attend your place of worship or meditate or spend time in nature? What does your soul/spirit need to keep you in balance? 
You are so much more than just your body and your mind and once you connect with that part of your life starts to feel in harmony! 

Do you move your body regularly, and do you nourish it with the foods that it needs? 
Look at ways to make sure your digestive system is functioning optimally. Stop feeding it compounds pretending to be food, and give it what it really needs.  A car doesn’t run on green juice and you would never dream of giving it something like that, but as a human we do function well on it.

So treat your body like you would treat your dream car and give it the best fuel. Look after it, cleanse it inside and out, mentally, spiritually and physically, because you can’t replace it. 

We All Need Someone To Talk To, It’s Important to Reach Out

About 9 years ago I was not dealing very well with a situation happening in my life. I was overwhelmed, stressed, anxious and slumped into a depression. I was binge eating to numb the pain that I was feeling. And I couldn’t digest the food properly because I was feeling so anxious which didn’t make me feel good either. Everything felt hopeless. 

I was ‘suffering in silence’ for a while but eventually it got too much and I needed to speak to someone. There was a woman in my office that I opened up to and she offered me support and also suggested that I speak with the Life Coach who worked with all the staff members. 
Opening up and having the courage to speak and be vulnerable was the best decision I could have made.

That was a big turning point in my life because I realised that I did not have to do this thing called life on my own. I didn’t need to shoulder every burden and that asking for help was in fact a brave thing to do, not a weak one. 

It is what inspired me to become a Life Coach, knowing that I could make a difference in people’s lives just like my colleague and Life Coach did for me. 

We All Need Someone To Talk To

We are dealing with such unpredictable and strange times at the moment and we are feeling higher levels of stress, anxiety, depression, numbness, self harm and suicidal thoughts. 

This is your reminder that you do not have to do it alone. 

You don’t have to suffer in silence and you are not weak for reaching out for help.

You are actually strong, brave and courageous. 

Speak to a friend or family member, or if it is something more serious or you want to speak to someone who doesn’t know you then speak to a therapist or a coach. 

Just make sure to reach out.
You may need to tell your story to a few different coaches and therapists, but don’t let that stop you, don’t let that allow you give up. 
Make sure that you find a coach who is a right match for you and that you feel comfortable with them and you know they can help you. 
You know they have done the work and they understand what it is like to go through ‘stuff’. 

Let it be one of the best decisions you have ever made.

You are loved!

Signs You Are Not Getting Enough Zinc

Zinc is one of the most vital nutrients we need for our bodies. 

It is used in so many of our bodily functions and if we do not top up on our reserves of zinc we can show signs of deficiency and even become seriously ill. 

Zinc deficienty can look like:

  • a weakened immune system and getting regular colds and flus
  • acne and blemished skin
  • adrenal problems
  • eczema
  • brittle nails with ridges
  • dry skin
  • dry and brittle hair
  • bad PMS and painful menstruation
  • slow healing wounds
  • poor night vision
  • fatigue
  • brain fog
  • autoimmune disorders
  • liver problems

Zinc is a strong anti-viral mineral and helps to support and balance our hormones, kill off pathogens, improve our hair, eyes, skin and nails, build up our immune system, help to balance blood sugar, and give us an overall better, happier body.  

You can get zinc from food or take a good quality zinc supplement. 

Zinc rich foods

  • Cashew nuts
  • sprouts
  • spinach
  • pumpkin seeds
  • almonds
  • mushrooms
  • lentils
  • chickpeas
  • peas
  • radishes
  • artichokes
  • parsley
  • nettle leaf
  • hemps seeds
  • avocado

Make sure to eat all of these foods regularly; have them in your salads,  smoothies and juices, soups and teas for a strong and healthy body. 

How To Listen To Your Body

Our bodies want us to be healthy.

They have the ability to get back to a healthy state when given the correct fuel; in the form of rest, food and drink, exercise, outdoors, fun, less media or more happy media, people we surround ourselves with, and the ability to manage our stress.

Think of your body as a young child. If you’ve ever followed a young child around you’ll have seen that they know what they want. They also want your presence to follow them, guide them or support them.

Your body is the same, it knows what it needs and wants.
You have to be present to hear what your body needs and give that to it.
It is always talking to you in different ways, but are you listening?

A headache is your body talking to you. You could need water, or to get away from your computer/phone for a few minutes and take a few deep breaths.

You’re exhausted or fatigued; you could need better sleep, so you may need to manage your stress so you can sleep better, or you need exercise.

What is your body saying to you and what can you give it? Will you give it what it needs rather than popping a pill and carry on going before it sends you something more serious to get your attention?

I promise it will start responding positively to you, just give it time.
You’ve abused it for x amount of years, now it needs to undo all of that, let go of all the toxins and get back into balance.

Your body loves you and you love it, maybe you’ve just forgotten somewhere along the line. 

You can do it, you’re amazing, your body is amazing.

What Is Lycopene and How Does It Benefit Our Bodies?

I was looking up the nutrient profile of grapefruit the other day because I have been adding it to my juices.
I felt really good consuming it so I wanted to know what was in it and share this information.

What I found is that it has lycopene in it. I remember reading about lycopene a while ago and most of the sources said that you can get it in tomatoes. They also said that you have to cook tomatoes to get the best benefits. 
I realised that someone just has to put some information out about one little nutrient and then everyone talks about it for a while until the next mineral is isolated and learned about. And then everyone is obsessed with that particular one and the former is forgotten about. 

But like the many minerals and vitamins spoken about, lycopene is an important one. And it is found in a lot of fruits and vegetables, not just tomatoes. Although it is more abundant in the tomato products that we use (tomato paste, sun dried, sauces, etc). 

Lycopene is phytonutrient, which is an antioxidant found in plants. 

What is an antioxidant? 
Antixoidants are compounds found in plants that prevent or delay cell damage in our bodies. It’s like they stop us from rusting. They can help us prevent premature aging and illness. 

By consuming plants we help to prevent our cells from damaging and aging too fast. 
Lycopene is just one of many antioxidants that have been identified in the plant kingdom. 

What is Lycopene?

Lycopene is phytonutrient, which is an antioxidant found in plants. 

What is an antioxidant? 
Antixoidants are compounds found in plants that prevent or delay cell damage in our bodies. It’s like they stop us from rusting. They can help us prevent premature aging and illness. 

By consuming plants we help to prevent our cells from damaging and aging too fast. 
Lycopene is just one of many antioxidants that have been identified in the plant kingdom. 

However, it is one of the most powerful antioxidants and one that is really beneficial for us to consume. 

Benefits of Lycopene

  • helps protect the heart and prevent cardiovascular disease
  • protects the cells in the eyes from damage which helps to prevent eye diseases
  • helps to prevent and slow the growth of certain cancer cells such as prostate, breast and liver
  • a powerful antioxidant which can slow down the aging process

Top Plant Sources of Lycopene

  • tomatoes
  • watermelon
  • grapefruit
  • papaya
  • guava
  • asparagus
  • mangoes

There are lycopene supplements, however I always like to get it straight from the food source. 

As long as you’re maintaining a healthy lifestyle with many of these foods in it, you’ll enjoy these benefits as well as the benefits of all their other vitamins and minerals. 

4 Benefits of Spending Time in Silence

When last did you give yourself time to just BE?

I spent some time right by the ocean last week. Although I live about 15 minutes from the ocean anyway, this was a lot closer and I could walk there. Instead of getting stuck in the hustle and bustle of life I took the time to walk to the beach and just BE for a bit.
There is something magical about nature that helps us to unlock what is going on inside.

When we’re stuck on the hamster wheel we miss what our intuition/God/the Universe is trying to tell us and guide us.

Do you really know what you want?
Do you know what you like and dislike, in all the areas of your life?
Do you know what food makes you feel good or not so good?

It’s second nature for me now but it took a little bit of time to work out what food makes me feel good.

And I still need time to connect to myself to figure out what I want, what I would like to change, what I would like more or less of, and what I need to nourish my soul.

Think you don’t have time?
Next time you’re on social media or watching tv, notice how much time you spend on there and halve it to give yourself some attention.
Instead of sitting on the toilet with your phone, tune in with yourself.

There is a reason why so many people get great ideas in the shower; because there is nothing to distract their attention.

If you don’t have time to get into nature, sit in the corner of a room, get out a journal, take a few deep breaths and write down everything you want.

Where is your life heading?
How do you want your life to look?
What do you want?
What do you need?
What does your body need?

Benefits you may experience

  • You’ll be able to tune into how your body is feeling and what it needs to feel better, whether it is to remove food/drinks or add in certain foods, movement, sleep, etc.
  • Get answers to questions you may have about yourself or your life
  • You get to feel calmer
  • You can recharge your batteries so you can give your energy to your friends, family, colleagues and employees.

We give our time to everyone and everything else, except our own body, mind and soul.

You are so important!

Lots of love Beautiful Beings

“Savor the gifts that silence brings” – Robin Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

4 Ways to Invest In Your Future

Your Health Is Your Wealth, Invest In Your Future

We’re taught from a fairly young age to save for our future.
Which is good advice, we don’t want to be left with nothing and have to struggle in our later years. 

But what about ‘saving our body for our future’?

My sister and I were walking along the beach yesterday in an area well known for where the older generation live. Unfortunately we’ve come to expect that they will be hobbling and hunched over. But we also observed how many overweight and lopsided younger people there were limping along.

How has the world become like this?  

It really saddens my sister and I because she is a Pilates instructor and I am a wellness coach and all we want is for people to be healthy in all areas of their life but especially in the body. 

She wants people to have a healthy and flexible spine. “You are only as young as your spine is flexible”. I’ve heard this quote numerous times, from her and from my yoga instructors. 

I want people to be able to walk up stairs without being out of breath. To be free of anxiety and have absolute joy because they feel so healthy and not plagued with illness. 

It is possible. 

Lucky for my parents, they have both of us encouraging good health and pointing out foods that aren’t great for the body, and postures that will benefit them. With 2 Pilates sessions a week, a daily walk and lots of healthy foods they are doing well 🙂
They can live their later years feeling fit and healthy and can enjoy the money that they saved up for this time of their life. 

So I want to encourage you to save for your body’s future. 

What good is a whole pile of money when you can’t enjoy it properly? All you’re using it on is trying to fix what you could have prevented earlier in life. (of course there are some circumstances that are out of our control, but why not take control of what we can in the form of food and exercise)

How do we save for the future of our body?

  • Move your body daily. This can be yoga or Pilates which is resistance exercise to keep your bone density strong, 30 minute daily walks, hiking, cycling, running, dancing etc. Over doing exercise can have a reverse effect so listen to your body and don’t stress it out. 
  • Eat foods that work for your body. Reduce the junk and processed foods. There are so many healthy alternatives that taste wonderful. 
  • Drink plenty of filtered or spring water. 
  • Manage your stress. I can speak from experience that if you do not address what is stressing you out early on then you will suffer the longer it goes on. (I’m still getting my back to where it was before – just because of stress)

There are so many others ways to regain your health, these are just a few to get started. 

You’ve got this!

Chickpea “Tuna Mayo” Recipe

The Thrive & Shine Chickpea “Tuna Mayo”

I’ve seen this recipe all over social media so I thought I would give it a try, and it really was yummy. 

I altered it slightly because I didn’t have any plant based mayo on hand so I made up my own version and it really works for me. 
The ingredients are simple and healthy.

The Recipe

1 tin of chickpeas
1 tablespoon tahini
1 teaspoon honey
1 teaspoon lemon juice
1 teaspoon olive or flax oil
1 cup cucumber
1 cup tomatoes
1/2 cup coriander (cilantro)
Pinch salt and pepper

If you like chunky pieces then mash the chickpeas with a potato masher.
Mix the tahini, honey, lemon juice and oil together and pour over the chickpeas. 
Mix together well. 
Chop the cucumber, tomatoes and coriander and add it to the chickpeas. 
Mix them well together. 
Add the salt and pepper to taste. 

If you like it smoother then mix the chickpeas, honey, tahini, oil and lemon juice together in a food processor. 
Chop up your tomatoes, cucumber and coriander and add them to the chickpeas. 
Add the salt and pepper to taste. 

If you usually like yours more ‘mayonnaisy’ then adjust the liquid ingredients to your taste. 

Don’t like coriander? Add basil instead. 

You can have this with salads, or on a healthy gluten free bread. 

Chickpea ‘Tuna-Mayo’

How Is Being Unwell Serving You?

Have you been trying to heal your body of whatever ailment you are plagued with, only to revert back to being unwell again?

You just don’t seem to be able to get over it and move on? 

Do you offload to friends and family and perhaps even on forums about how bad, tired or ill you’re feeling? 

Do they give you a lot of attention and sympathize with you a lot? 

Have you actually become well and then you stopped getting attention from loved ones because they didn’t have to look after you any more?

What I want to ask you is; how is being unwell serving you? 

This may sound like a weird question to ask because I’m sure you would think that everyone would want to be well.
I thought so too but my first nutrition teacher said she had clients who would get well and then end up getting ill again. 
She realised that after her clients had healed they were not getting the attention from everyone anymore and reverted back to being unwell. They had an identity linked to their sickness. 

If this is you that is ok. 
Not everyone wants to be well.

There is a lot of uncertainty around being well, a life of unknown possibilities which can be scary. 

So what I would like to ask you now is, what need is being met when the people around you are giving you a lot of attention?

Are you lonely and looking for some kind attention?
Are you extra hard on yourself and have a lot of negative self talk? Being ill gives you the support and encouragement from others that you can’t give to yourself?
Is there certainty in being ill? You always know what to expect in your day to day life such as pain and discomfort.
If you were to be well would you have to work or change careers which is too scary for you? Would you have to ‘put yourself out there’ instead of hiding away from the world?
Do you think that you will lose your friends if you stop eating and drinking and living their lifestyle?

Remember this is ok, we all go at our own pace in life. 

Ask yourself these questions:
How is being unwell serving me? 
What need is being met by being unwell?
What do I need to give to myself instead of searching for it from others?
What would my life look like if I were to be well again?
What could I achieve if I was well and healthy?
Who would I be if I was well? How would I act, walk and talk? 

Really dive into these questions. Write the answers out in your journal. 
Feel how it would feel to be well again. 
Feel the joy and success of life because you knew what you needed and you gave it to yourself.

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